Tick Tock goes the clock. I am one of those people who is either late or early. Okay, I’ll own it. I am one of those people who is always late. With every tick and every tock time just seems to get away from me. A lot of it has to do with the fact that I miscalculate the amount of time I need to do something or get somewhere. The other part of it is, I just get so distracted that time slips away. When I became a mother, things went from manageable to just plain bad. Of course it takes practice. Learning to balance all the time it takes to be a mother with the time it takes to just be you is not easy. It can be a frustrating process that sometimes leaves us looking like a funky mess, literally, as we prioritize our children over ourselves.
So how do we make managing our time manageable? Well here’s a few things I have implemented to help me keep on track:
- Mandatory Bed Times for Kids: Start when baby is well, a baby, and put her to bed around the same time every night. Use a routine. Mine was the three B’s: Bath, Bottle, Bed;or Bath, Breast, Bed, whatever your preference. Make sure bed time is reasonable. I know you love the child but baby does not need to be up at 10:00 at night watching the nightly news with you. Putting Baby to bed on time, every time will help open up the evenings for bonding between you and the spouse.
T asleep before her first day of school
- Mandatory Bed Time For You: If you are tired, you lose time. You need a reasonable bed time as well. As mothers, after we get everyone down, we do chores, work on projects, or whatever and then end up in bed way too late. We need to recover. Having a consistent bed time helps your body learn when to wind down and go into that recovery state. You do not need me to tell you how important sleep is. Be real with yourself and acknowledge that you can not manage your time effectively if you are too tired to realize what time it is.
I have been known to fall asleep on the couch once or twice… (CC0 Public Domain pixabay.com)
- Move the alarm clock: So you have no problem getting to bed, you just can’t get out of it. Welcome to my world! There are tons of alarms to assist with this problem, however if you turn them off..you still have a problem. I am a notorious snoozer, and can press the snooze button for an hour straight before I get up. This worked well before I got married and had to consider someone else’s sleep state. My solution..move that clock. Do not just move it anywhere, move it into the path you have to take to the bathroom or out the door. Whatever you do, do not turn around and go back to that bed!!!
Moving the alarm outside might be a little too far! (pixabay.com coc public domain)
- Lie to yourself: Because I mismanage the amount of time it takes me to get ready, I lie to myself about the time I am supposed to arrive somewhere by about 10-15 minutes. If I have an 8:00 appointment, I set the appointment for 7:45 in my phone. I also use the notify me option to let me know 30 minutes to an hour ahead of time that it is time to go. This way I do not suddenly look up to see what time it is and realize I am going to be late!
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- Teach your clock to lie: I have a habit that annoys my husband to no end. I set my clocks ahead by a few minutes. I intentionally do not calculate how far ahead. I just keep pushing the plus, up, or whatever button until I feel the need to stop. There is this little satisfaction that comes from getting into the car thinking I am really late, only to realize I am actually on time. It’s the little things.
- Set a schedule/develop a routine: I know it is cliché to make a schedule of your day, but it does help to sit down and think about what it is you want to accomplish for the day and schedule it in. It is even better if it’s a routine, that way you almost go about your day with a sort of muscle memory. Personally, physically imputing or writing down what, when, and where I have to do something helps me to remember it.
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- Don’t forget all the W’s: We often know what we are supposed to do, when we are supposed to do it, and even where we are supposed to do it at. We just forget to account for the time it takes to do all three. When are you going to the store, how much time will you really spend there (including kid fits and browsing), and how long does it take to get there and back? All of the W’s are important and when we forget to consider them together, it is super easy to get behind.
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- Kid Time Warnings: My children are my worse time offenders. I have learned to implement a few things to assist me with making sure they are ready to go/do what I want them to, when I want them to. This is important so that I do not strangle them for wasting my time… seriously. I have them get ready 30 minutes ahead of the time I want to leave by, to include shoes. There is nothing worse than when they spend 10 minutes looking for shoes and another 10 putting them on. I also take away their time when they waste mine. Telling D to get into bed, is five-minutes off his computer time for each reminder. If all else fails, I get into the car and pretend I am leaving. There is nothing like a little fear to get them going! Be consistent and before you know it when you tell them to do something, they’ll do it right away.
chronic time offenders
- Chillax: Yes, it is important to be on time, but be realistic. Stuff happens. Stuff that is out of your control happens. No matter how far ahead you planned, lied to yourself, clock lied, and threatened your school age kids…the baby has diarrhea right before you walk out the door, or you get a flat tire, or Johnny throws up on the sidewalk (if you’re lucky). Sometimes, time is simply out of our control and no amount of preparation or planning can change that.
the best chillaxer in the house
- Time to Appreciate: Don’t get so caught up in time, that the little things go unnoticed. Sarah had a bad day and needs to cuddle,…. do it. Your teenager has taken a break from their phone and actually engaged you into a discussion about politics or themselves or anything,…don’t be in such a rush to get out of the car. The spring flowers that you thought would never come back after the all the snow from the winter are in bloom and there is a plethora of colors…stop and stare for just a minute. It is okay to waste a little time, every now and then.Would love to read your time tips in the comments below!
-Daily Post Prompt: Clock